Many entrepreneurs completely skip past talking about the mental hurdles you have to jump over in order to be successful and instead, just give generic advice like “wake up earlier” and “study your craft.” Those are important but they’re such a small piece of the puzzle, especially when it comes to excelling as a woman entrepreneur. That’s the whole reason why we’re here. There are so many gaps within content online that only speak to one area or the other when it comes to success: meditate on who you want to be and have no practical advice or all practical advice and barely anything on mental hurdles leveling up as you level up in your work.
One of our favorite podcasters, Courtney Sanders, said some really profound points on improving your mindset on one of her latest episodes. One of the things she mentioned was that many women settle for just slightly better than they are now. We want to make just slightly more money and just be a little better off at our new jobs etc. and because of it, we’re selling ourselves short. What if you’re destined to have a business that supplements your income instead of just focusing on just having a little bit more than you have now? Think about how differently you would move if you knew there were millions waiting on you instead of a $5,000 pay raise. Or what about this crazy thought: why not both? Why do we have to choose to be successful entrepreneurs OR be successful in our 9-5s? Why can’t we expand our mindsets and work ethics so that we can be successful in everything that we touch? That doesn’t happen overnight and there are very talented women who seemingly are just “that good” but they’re not “that good” without doing some internal homework.
This post is all about that internal homework: a few things that you must begin to address and be prepared for in order to level up mental hurdles so you can really handle the things that you want to happen within your work.
Be prepared to own up to your own BS
The thing that most people can’t do that leveling up requires is seeing their role in their current situation and what it will take to get them to the next level. For example, many people have the goal of owning 6 and 7 figure businesses but, it is literally impossible if you can’t handle the responsibilities it takes to lead a 4 figure business. Why is it that there’s a hole in the bottom of your business and you can’t seem to hold onto money? What are you doing or not doing that is making it harder to not only make more money but to grow what you have? It is impossible to grow a large company without managing the small company first and getting better and better at what it takes to hold things together. You have to understand your role and understand what it takes for you to be able to move forward. Don’t let those popular Instagram posts make you think you can always skip steps. Some steps you’re hovering over because you need to take the time to fully understand what’s going on before you make a mess over your business.
Be prepared to shed things (and people)
You can’t be too attached to how things were and who was in your life before you decided to go on this journey towards growth. We wrote a post about friendships because it’s truly a part of your growth and deciphering the relationships you have in your life. You have to be prepared to constantly reassess what you have going on. If you’re not getting the results you want with your current business model, you need to pivot and the same goes for your personal life: if you feel like certain things and people are not helping you move forward, you also need to pivot. Naturally, some people will fall off as you become more focused but others will see your progression and want to hang on to your coattails and drag you backward. Let them go. You have to clear out the old to make room for the new. You have to pay close attention to what’s not going to work for this new level of yourself and what has to go as a result. You have to start thinking like you are already this evolved version of yourself, about what she would require and move accordingly.
Be prepared to spend a lot of time immersing yourself with self-development because of mental hurdles
The level up to get past mental hurdles is very self-consuming. Almost to the point that people will feel like you’re selfish and to an extent, you need to be selfish in order to really be in tune with yourself and what you need. The only person who can put the pieces together to give you the life you want is you. That means you will need to spend a lot of time working on your self-development and your inner work. Inner work does not stop because you hit a certain milestone, it deepens. You shouldn’t aim to be the 2.0 version of yourself and stay there. We didn’t relaunch TBH to just say we relaunched. We relaunched to be better in every single way the second time around.
If you decide that you want to become consistent within your business, what does that look like in your personal life? Once you solidify what that looks like for you and begin working towards it, it becomes second nature. People get caught up in just “seeing the vision” either on their vision board or in following the lives of other people and yet don’t connect the dots to do the research, read the books and DO THE WORK IT TAKES. You have to constantly listen and pay attention to the seasons you’re in and what they will entail for you to reach the next season of growth successfully. We can halt our external growth because we’re not growing internally and it would be no one’s fault but our own.
Be prepared to stand your ground
What happens when you spend more time getting to know yourself and what the next level entails? It seems like people and things come out of the woodwork to challenge your new line of thinking. You have to be able to say “this is what I’m working towards and this is how I’m going to make it happen” with a solid stance rather you physically see the changes yet or not. You can’t let what people and your circumstances know about the “old you” stop you from progressing and knowing what you now know about the “new you.” Be confident in your abilities and confident in where you’re headed.
Be prepared to document a lot
One major thing we’ve picked up this year is journaling and taking notes based on what’s going on in the current season (some people might look at this as recurring themes in your life) and what lessons are popping up. If you’re writing and documenting what those things are, you’ll be able to go back to those notes and be able to teach yourself at a later date. Think about when you create a list of tasks for creating a blog post, the next time you go on vacation and come back foggy, you already know that you’ve written down the steps. The same exact thing happens in our personal life/mental hurdles and we dismiss little lessons and end up repeating them and making similar mistakes. In an effort to say “we got this” or “I’ve always done it this way” and not paying attention, we’re essentially staying on a hamster wheel instead of moving forward.
In an upcoming post, we intend to tie this into even more tangible steps in order to move forward within your business and regaining creative direction. In the meantime, read these other posts on the site and stay tuned for more conversations on this topic!